Oral for Her: The Kivin Method
The Kivin method is more of a position than a technique. It is oral sex for her – sideways. This right angle can allow for increased sensations and highly pleasurable stimulation. Some describe experiencing involuntary, pre-orgasmic contractions and/or powerful orgasms with this position.
How it works:
Position:
The giver positions themselves perpendicular to the receiver’s vulva (T-shape)
The receiver’s leg will be draped over the giver’s shoulder
Try using pillows to make things comfortable
Technique:
The giver uses their tongue side to side across the vulva
Focus on exploring the labia, inner thighs, and other areas first before the clitoral hood, and the clitoris
Make circles, flick your tongue, gently suck - try different and varied techniques to see what brings pleasurable sensations
Remember that the clitoris is erectile tissue.
This means it will swell when aroused.
Some givers of the Kivin method describe that once the clitoris is good and aroused, they can feel two tiny bumps on either side of the clitoral hood with their tongue. These are called “K” points, and they are tiny - like a grain of rice. If you feel these, use your tongue across the clitoral hood between these points.
That said, not every person with a vulva enjoys this kind of stimulation nor has detectable “K” points. Experiment and play, then talk through these questions together:
Do you like this kind of stimulation?
Is it pleasurable for you?
As a partner do you enjoy giving oral in this position?
Is it fun and exciting to try something new?
