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Temperature Play

Dabbling with hot and cold sensations can be an intriguing way to explore erotic sensuality with yourself or with a partner.

Temperature Play 

Dabbling with different temperatures can be a fun way to bring variety, playfulness, and new sensations into your sexy time. Our bodies have so many potential erogenous zones. It’s easy to focus solely on the genitals and forget the myriad sensitive areas over the entire body. Introducing hot and cold can be an intriguing way to explore with yourself or with a partner. 

Focusing on your senses helps you to stay present in the moment, get out of your head, and pay attention to what your body is feeling. Adding temperature is a relatively easy addition to sensual play. Getting curious about incorporating hot/cold and negotiating consent around it beforehand also alerts your brain to prepare and be on alert for new sensations. It can create exciting and sexy anticipation for your body to experience something new.

3 Ways to bring the heat

  1. Use a massage candle or warmed massage oil to explore erogenous zones with heated wax/oil.

  2. Drink something hot before kissing or oral sex

  3. Focus a showerhead with various degrees of warm water on your genitals. For a hands free pleasure tool, consider the Waterslyde water diverter for an arousing water experience.

3 Ways to cool it down

  1. Keep an ice cube in your mouth while kissing or during oral sex.

  2. Run a piece of ice down your throat and follow the drip down to your navel or have a partner follow the drip with their tongue. Try the sensation of cold grazing the nipples or ear lobes.

  3. Play with popsicles or whipped cream and have fun licking it off.

1 WAy to add intensity

  1. Taking away one sense can heighten another. Consider blindfolding a partner on the receiving end of temperature play, with consent first of course. This can add an element of surprise and intensity to hot and cold sensations.

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The clitoris has a hood

The clitoris has a hood that protects the glans. Every hood is unique and may enjoy different kinds of stimulation. Learn some techniques for more pleasure for a range of different bodies.

The clitoris has a hood

The clitoral hood is located at the top of the vulva where the labia minora (inner lips) meet. It is a fold of skin that protects the glans clitoris (the external part of the clitoris). The glans clitoris is packed with nerve endings and highly sensitive to touch and irritants, like friction. The hood is its protection.

Remember that the glans is only one part of the clitoris, the rest of its structure is internal, but still accessible for arousal and pleasure. 

The amount of the glans covered by the clitoral hood varies from body to body. Each of our bodies is unique. The clitoral hood may cover all, some, or none of the glans clitoris.

When you become sexually aroused, your clitoris becomes engorged or swollen, this pulls back the clitoral hood allowing for more external access to the glans. Be sure to allow yourself enough time for adequate arousal. For some people, the clitoral hood is large, has extra tissue or is very thick. This may interfere with the kind of stimulation they may want/need to the glans clitoris. Below are some ideas to try for a range of different bodies.

Stimulation and pleasure 

Sometimes it feels great to avoid touching the exposed glans and just stimulate the hood or layers of skin around it. For some people, the glans clitoris is sensitive to the point that it is uncomfortable when touched directly. Touching the hood may be a technique to explore for pleasure.

When you touch the clitoral hood and the skin around the glans - it gives the glans little nudges of stimulation indirectly.

Some people can orgasm from stimulation to the clitoral hood alone.

Techniques to try

  • Up and down strokes on the hood

  • Move the skin of the hood

  • Circling the hood

  • Tapping the hood

  • Gliding over the hood

  • Vibration sensations using a vibrator on or near the hood

If you have a very thick or larger clitoral hood

Techniques to try

Apply more direct pressure to the hood

Strong vibrations using a vibrator

Gently draw back the hood (if able) for more direct stimulation to the glans

Use adequate lubricant, and rub around the hood and glans to determine if you can “free up” the glans. If unable to, consult with your healthcare provider.

Some people suffer from clitoral adhesions that hinder the clitoral hood from fully retracting, if you feel this might be the case for you, see your healthcare provider to determine the cause and potential treatment options.

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