Temperature Play
Dabbling with hot and cold sensations can be an intriguing way to explore erotic sensuality with yourself or with a partner.
Dabbling with different temperatures can be a fun way to bring variety, playfulness, and new sensations into your sexy time. Our bodies have so many potential erogenous zones. It’s easy to focus solely on the genitals and forget the myriad sensitive areas over the entire body. Introducing hot and cold can be an intriguing way to explore with yourself or with a partner.
Focusing on your senses helps you to stay present in the moment, get out of your head, and pay attention to what your body is feeling. Adding temperature is a relatively easy addition to sensual play. Getting curious about incorporating hot/cold and negotiating consent around it beforehand also alerts your brain to prepare and be on alert for new sensations. It can create exciting and sexy anticipation for your body to experience something new.
3 Ways to bring the heat
Use a massage candle or warmed massage oil to explore erogenous zones with heated wax/oil.
Drink something hot before kissing or oral sex
Focus a showerhead with various degrees of warm water on your genitals. For a hands free pleasure tool, consider the Waterslyde water diverter for an arousing water experience.
3 Ways to cool it down
Keep an ice cube in your mouth while kissing or during oral sex.
Run a piece of ice down your throat and follow the drip down to your navel or have a partner follow the drip with their tongue. Try the sensation of cold grazing the nipples or ear lobes.
Play with popsicles or whipped cream and have fun licking it off.
1 WAy to add intensity
Taking away one sense can heighten another. Consider blindfolding a partner on the receiving end of temperature play, with consent first of course. This can add an element of surprise and intensity to hot and cold sensations.
More on these topics:
Using your senses for pleasure
Your brain’s sexual excitement system
Waterslyde (use code CINDY for 10% off)
Maude massage candles (code CINDY10)
New year intentions for better sex
Intentions for better sex in the new year.
Get to know your body and anatomy
Gain more understanding of your sexuality
Give yourself permission to try something new
Get curious about eroticism and sensual play
Gain more education about sex through the podcast
Give yourself permission to talk about sex
Grow your sexual conversation with a partner by using these prompts
Gift yourself a vibrator or toy
Grab a good lubricant for sex
Get curious about temperature play
Give your arousal a nudge with these three tips
Get up for morning sex
Gift yourself a sexual wellness retreat with my book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden
Get out of your bedroom boredom with an Ayra intimacy subscription box (use my discount code CS15)
Glow up your arousal with Foria’s CBD Intimacy Oil
What is edging?
Edging is a sexual exploration practice of building arousal and delaying orgasm. By slowing down your experience, you may discover more about your body, your arousal and your pleasure.
Edging is a technique or practice of bringing yourself or your partner close to, or to the edge of orgasm, and then backing off or decreasing stimulation.
The focus is on building up arousal, and delaying orgasm.
It is pleasurable stimulation right up to the peak before climax, and then dialing it back. Then, building arousal again to the brink of orgasm, stopping stimulation, waiting, and building up again. This can be done repeatedly or for as long as you or your partner are able to hold off climax. One benefit of exploring this practice is that is causes you to slow down the sexual experience.
It is an exploration time of building arousal
A way of getting curious and possibly discovering more ways or places in your body that bring you pleasure and heighten your arousal.
Edging is a technique that takes practice and time to master. If you are going to explore it with a partner, you will want to have good communication! Talk about expectations and timing and be sure you both consent to exploring arousal in this way. You might even have a word or phrase that indicates you want to move into your orgasm so that the experience doesn’t lead to frustration for either you or your partner.
𝗪𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝗲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬?
Women may practice this solo to learn more about their own body. They can gain understanding of what their body responds to, how to increase arousal, and different stimulation they enjoy and that allows them to reach orgasm.
Some women describe the orgasm as more intense and lasting longer when they do get to final release.
Some men use this technique to get in tune with their bodies and learn to delay climax and ejaculation.
One of the benefits is that it slows your experience down and extends it.
Practicing edging can help people become more fully attuned to their body and arousal.
Couples want to introduce something new into their sexual experience together.
Hear more on this topic:
Vibrators, Edging & Anal Sex
Pleasure Techniques with Penetration
Are There Different Kinds of Orgasms?
When your partner wants to try something new
