24 Conversation starters and questions
to help you talk about sex with a partner
Current Favorites
1. What do you most enjoy about our sex life right now?
2. What do I do that really turns you on?
Let’s Do This More
3. Are there things I can do to make sex more pleasurable, fun, or satisfying for you?
4. What are some of the reasons that motivate you to have sex.
5. Is there anything you would like more of during sex?
Consistency & Variety
6. Do you enjoy having sex the same way with some consistency?
7. Do you ever wonder about adding more variety to our sex life?
8. Is there something you imagine us doing sexually that makes your heart race? (even if it isn’t something you want to do in real life)
Changing Interests
9. Is there anything you used to like sexually that has changed for you or no longer turns you on?
10. Was there anything in the past that you were not interested in, that you’re now curious about?
11. How do you feel about the amount of affection we show each other outside of sex? Would you like to see it change? Physically, verbally or in other ways?
Frequency
12. Is there anything you would change about how often we have sex?
13. How often would you ideally like to have sex?
14. How do you feel about scheduling a sex date?
Inviting Intimacy & Play
15. What is something we can do with our bedroom space that would invite more intimacy?
16. Could we play more in the bedroom?
17. What is something that sounds playful or fun to you that we could try?
Senses & Sensual Touch
18. What parts of your body would you like me to touch more?
19. Which of your 5 senses is the most sensitive?
20. How has the way you experience sex in your body changed in the last few years?
21. What are some of my body parts that you find sexy?
Initiation
22. What is your favorite way for me to initiate sex?
23. When you initiate sex and I say no, what feelings come up for you?
24. How would you like me to say no, or not now, when you initiate sex, and I don’t want to?
