Childhood sexual abuse prevention: 2 tools for parents
We all want to keep children safe from sexual abuse. While there is no foolproof way to protect them, there are some tools to help reduce the risk. The one to start with?
Teach your child the correct names for their genitals and body parts.
Children who know the correct names for their body parts are better able to tell you when something is wrong.
As your child gains language, move toward the two tools below. These give parents and caregivers tangible ways to direct kids with words as well as action steps when they are in an uncomfortable or unsafe situation. This needs to be an ongoing conversation with your child - not a one time discussion!
IT IS IMPORTANT TO BRING THIS TOPIC UP REGULARLY.
Ask questions, role play, and provide opportunities for your child to talk about how to handle potential situations with you. Communicate often to your child that they can come to you with any concerns or questions.
Start with the 3 simple words for young children. Then, add the easy to remember acronym from NSPCC (which they call PANTS), as your child approaches school age.
FOR YOUNG CHILDREN
NO - use your voice and say no!
GO - use your feet and go.
TELL - use your mouth and tell a trusted adult.
AS CHILDREN APPROACH SCHOOL AGE
Privates are Private
Always remember your body belongs to you
No means no
Talk about secrets that upset you
Speak up, someone can help
Learn more:
These tips are a part of my parent workshop. Book a workshop with a few friends!
Read my letter of encouragement to parents.
Read my conversations starters for parents.
6 tips for using sexual health themed books with your child.
Listen to the Permission for Pleasure Podcast: Why Sex-Ed Really Matters and the Mother/Daughter Interview: Healthy Conversations About Sex
